Friday, March 18, 2011

"The Twighlight Zone"

I can't tell you how many blogs I have read that have some version of " I hate drama..." in there somewhere. Do you think it is just a natural propensity of bloggers? You have to dislike drama, because otherwise you'd make a bad blogger? Perhaps that's true...I think blogging takes a fair amount of introspection, and a knowing of oneself. People who start drama, I feel, typically are too involved in the creation of all that to really delve into themselves that much.

This is one of those " I hate drama" posts. And it's true, I do. I try not to start drama, I try even harder not to be involved in other people's drama. Both Skunky and I feel this way. Except for an occasional rant ( I have been known to have moments of TMI on here ;P) We keep to ourselves. Our business is our own...and we don't really care to know all of  yours either.

This week has felt like an episode straight out of the Twighlight Zone. My kids have been nuts....Piglet is teething like crazy, and all sorts of cranky about it ( Poor guy. I feel for you I do but...really? With the incessant high pitched screaming? ALL DAY? Mommy's brain is seriously about to leak out of her burst eardrums...) And darling Pollyanna...I miss the sweet natured little girl that took your place last week. Can we have her back? Please? Pretty Please?

Add to that some disturbing...but completely incorrect...press about my husbands boat ( both in the paper and on TV) that was enough to give me a near heart attack ( I had no idea that the media could report something so wrong as the honest-to-God's truth! Seriously people, do not believe everything you read/hear!) And then an 'emergency' boat meeting about said media. Of course they didn't tell you that when you got the call about the meeting, so I spent all day wondering what in the crap had gone wrong! Only to get there and be told "don't believe everything you hear/read" ( Duh! Figured that out earlier in the week!)

And to top it all off, tonight...a committee meeting. Now, I signed up to be on this committee when the boys left, knowing I was going to be away for most of the deployment. I figured they wouldn't really need me until the end anyway. The committee chair kept me updated while I was out there, and I have been able to do a few things, but this was my first official meeting. The girls seemed really nice, and very excited about the tasks the committee was assigned. And this is where the drama comes in...apparently there is some bad blood between the committee chair and some former committee members, and I was about to be versed in all of that bad blood, if it wasn't for some other very sweet committee member who change the subject ASAP. ( thank you, you sweet sweet girl!)

The reason this pertains to me was, I had sat with the former committee member at the emergency meeting. I'm gonna give the benefit of the doubt to the committee chair, that perhaps she's trying to 'save' me from all of the trouble she has gone through. What she doesn't know is, this person who she dislikes so much, was one of only two women who befriended me when we first got to the boat over two years ago. She and her husband have been in the Navy a lot longer then Skunky and I, and she has been there to guide me through all of the chaos that comes with being married to a deployed submariner. She has only barely alluded to some difficulties she has had with the committee chair, but has really taken the position of " Jenn, you're a big girl and you can make your own judgments about people." I wish that I could trust the committee chair would do the same, and leave their problems between them.

I'm nervous now, to be involved with the committee, because you know the more I go the harder its going to be to dodge the conversation she so obviously wants to share with me. I would have to stand up and say " Hey, that's my friend , and I don't want to be involved in this" which wouldn't be hard but...lol I'd probably earn myself an enemy. We're SO close to the end it's insane...and I've made it almost the entire deployment without being involved in all of the navy wife drama...can I make it just this last little bit??

Honestly....I don't know. Lets pray that I can. :)

7 thoughts:

Katrina said...

Okay Jen... well it seems that you are a big girl and can handle this situation I think like any other time you have to deal with someone talking about another person. I think you listen and don't respond unless you feel like you should and be honest when you do. Like you said it is the last of the deployment and really you don't need to get mixed up with this drama and especially since you have been befriended by the other woman and she has been very good to you. Stay true to who you are Jen. Love ya

housewife said...

you....no drama...who are you and what have you done with Jen?! :P lol

Undaunted ~ My Life One Day at a Time said...

LOL, Megg makes me laugh. It is hard to not get caught in middle. Just follow the spirit and you will know what is right. :)

Jenn said...

HA!! You know the funny thing about that? When I was typing out that paragraph I almost added " with the exception of my SIL...she brings out the drama in me like no one can!" :)

McDancer said...

It's hard to be caught in the middle. Try to be Switzerland for as long as you can; you will know when it's necessary to join the Allied Forces ;)
Hope the kiddos return to their non twilight zone selves soon so that you can prevent brain through eardrum meltage!

Poekitten said...

I do my best to avoid feeding the drama llama but sometimes it can be so hard to avoid! I hope you can figure it out...even if it means making some waves for standing up for yourself & your friend.

annoyed army wife said...

Am I the only one who loves hearing about other people's drama? I stay out of it, but I like to hear the gossip. It probably makes me a bad person. I agree with every body, try to stay neutral until you get the whole story. Then you need to decide what's right for you. And of course post it all your blog!